It's all about understanding then application. Once you get it you'll wonder how it ever got you so confused lol.
And by the way....never, ever, ever, EVER use your on camera flash, especially if you have a flash gun. And if you have off camera flash then never leave home without it.
I saw a good book in WHSmiths the other day that I had a little gander at. Somehting like "how to take pro shots" by Scott Kelby. non technical but very good for stuff like dragging thr shutter and +- flash compensation. Take a look at it as from what I read it was well written and easy to understand.